4. "THE EMOTIONALLY ABSENT MOTHER"

"The Emotionally Absent Mother: A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed" by Jasmin Lee Cori

FROM DOM: Alan has a wonderful ministry of emailing an encouraging Bible verse every day to people on his list. I have been receiving these verses for about a year now, and many times they were just what I needed to hear or be reminded of. I always click on his email to be uplifted spiritually. If you would like to be on Alan's list, write anndavid45@gmail.com and request The Encouraging Word. (You can unsub at any time.)

FIBROMYALGIA (FMS)

Symptoms of FMS: www.fms-help.com/signs.htm

Causes of FMS: www.fms-help.com/causes.htm

Dom's Fibro Story: www.fms-help.com/fibro.htm (onset June 1982)

CHRONIC FATIGUE SYNDROME (CFS, CFIDS)

Description of CFIDS: www.fms-help.com/ME.htm

No Energy - Biology of CFS: http://www.fms-help.com/energy.htm

Dom's CFIDS Story: www.fms-help.com/fatigue.htm (onset 1987)

INSOMNIA/SLEEP DISORDER

Dom's Insomnia Story: www.fms-help.com/insomnia.htm (onset 1968)

Everything I've Tried for Sleep: www.fms-help.com/sleep.htm

What I Use Now: www.fms-help.com/what.htm

15. "DISARMING THE NARCISSIST"

"Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving & Thriving With the Self-Absorbed" by Wendy Behary

http://www.amazon.com/dp/1572245190/ref=pe_113430_19594720_pd_re_dt_t7

16. SLEEP MED COMBINATIONS

From a reader--

"It is interesting about all of us with our sleep formulas. You with generic Ambien--I can't take it--and the herbal formula (Somnapure) as a supplement. I do it with generic Trazadone --Deseril and NightRest by Source Naturals and may add something from www.endfatigue.com and that other person who mentioned Dreamboost www.fms-help.com/041611.htm. We all seem to need to combine a prescription and an herbal. Dr. Teitelbaum suggests several low dose of prescription things and herbal things, as opposed to a huge dose of one thing like a prescription. several things he thinks work better and in different ways."

FROM DOM: Yep! My insomnia story is at www.fms-help.com/insomnia.htm. A list of things I've tried for sleep is at www.fms-help.com/sleep.htm. A list of things I use now is at www.fms-help.com/what.htm. I get restorative sleep most nights with a combo of meds and Somnapure.

17. THREE WAYS GOD ANSWERS PRAYERS

From a reader--

Three Ways God Answers Prayers:

1. Yes

2. Not Yet

3. I Have Something Better In Mind

18 LIDOCAINE

Reader 1--

"Re: lidocaine www.fms-help.com/041811.htm - those trigger point injections seem to work for a lot of people...but it sent me into a flare. I get lidocaine bubbles when I have to get an IV because of my scleroderma....and I LOVE them...but the trigger point injections are different. I would LOVE to be able to get those...if they worked, I would be in the doctor's office each week."

Reader 2--

"Last year my PCP prescribed 50 lidoderm patches for my pain in my back and shoulder blade area. Well, I could not tell that much difference. We do not have any health insurance, so for 5 patches it was $50. A touch high. But like you have told me and I have learned, each person is different."

19 PANDORA

PANDORA stands for

Patient

Alliance for

NeuroEndocrineImmune

Disorders

Organization for

Research and

Advocacy

See http://www.pandoranet.info/.

FROM DOM: Marly Silverman's PANDORA is an organization out of Florida that is coming to the Washington, DC area to run some amazing advocacy efforts next month for FMS, CFS, Chronic Lyme, and more.

20. MAY 12 AWARENESS DAY

FROM DOM: http://www.bloggersunite.org/event/fibromyalgia-awareness-day-1 - If you are not a blogger, then just post your comments on blogger's sites (suggestion from reader).

May 12 Awareness Day event was founded by Tom Hennessy in 1992 - here's the story: www.rescindinc.org/event.html. (CIND stands for Chronic Immunological and Neurological Diseases and these diseases include Neurofibromatosis, Chronic Fatigue Immune Dysfunction Syndrome (CFIDS)/Myalgic Encephalomyelitis, Fibromyalgia, Gulf War Syndrome and Multiple Chemical Sensitivity.)

There is an interview with Mr. Hennessy by Cort Johnson of Phoenix Rising at www.aboutmecfs.org.violet.arvixe.com/Int/IntHennesseyCFS.aspx.

The May 12th date was chosen to memorialize the birth date of Florence Nightingale, the English army nurse who inspired the founding of the International Red Cross (www.rescindinc.org/nightingale.html).

To read what it's like to live with a neuro-endocrine-immune disorder, see www.fms-help.com/neuro.htm.

To read about our Million Letter Campaign for awareness in 2005, see www.fms-help.com/letter.htm.

To read Dom's letter to Congress, see www.fms-help.com/congress.htm.

I believe we can influence society from the comfort of our own homes and computers but suggesting stories to local media, blogging, or reply to fibro blogs. Seems everyone is online these days, so why not make use of it?

21. URINARY TRACT INFECTIONS (UTI'S)

Destroy Urinary Tract Infections without Antibiotics or Cranberry Juice

22. PALPITATIONS & RACING HEART

"A twenty-plus year, FMS and CFS sufferer, I have problems with my heart rate. There have been times that it just "hits" and I end up passing out. My heart rate is very rarely below ninety, even while I am at rest. I have several episodes per day that my heart rate jumps into rates as high as 196. These episodes can last in duration for a few seconds to thirty or more minutes. I experience some chest tightening, nausea and coughing during some of these times. I feel "washed out" after some of these. I have taken different medications for this problem. I am presently taking Rx. Bystolic 10mg. I still have several episodes per day, however they are not as severe. I have been told to gag myself as this can make your heart jump back into normal rhythm. I usually end up having to lay down and " try to relax". This problem can be very frightening and restricting, as I have no way of predicting severity of any episode. They increased when I was taking Savella, which I no longer take. My doctor doesn't seem concerned about this. Again, I feel like a hypochondriac, as I am made to feel about many of my medical complaints by my family and physician."

FROM DOM: See www.fms-help.com/doctors.htm if you have been shell-shocked by a doctor's unsympathetic response to your health problem.

23. ANXIETY & GABA

"I've been meaning to write in regard to your reader with anxiety problems in the previous newsletter www.fms-help.com/041811.htm. There is a supplement called GABA which helps anxiety tremendously. I have been trying to control extreme depression and anxiety by natural means for the last 2 years and finally feel that it is managed. The list of things I use is a long one but the two most important for anxiety are taking a good vitamin B complex and GABA. Also a BIG AMEN to the excellent information on Magnesium (same newsletter)! It is a miracle mineral of which so many people are deficient. Magnesium supplementation can be confusing because there are several different forms of it. It's something that requires research & experimentation to find the right one for each individual."

24. DOM'S ONLINE STORES

Welcome to Dom's Online Stores! I offer the HIGHEST QUALITY and MOST EFFECTIVE nutritional products available! Having had much personal experience with these for many years, I can probably answer any question you might have. Please write if you need help finding anything. My email is dombush@bellsouth.net. A list of things I use to relieve my misery and keep me functional is at www.fms-help.com/what.htm.

25. UPLIFTING REMINDERS

"Look at the birds of the air, that they do not sow, nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not worth much more than they? And who of you by being worried can add a single hour to his life? And why are you worried about clothing ? Observe how the lilies of the field grow; they do not toil nor do they spin, yet I say to you that not even Solomon in all his glory clothed himself like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which is alive today and tomorrow is thrown into the furnace, will He not much more clothe you?" Matthew 6:26-30

"And my God shall supply every need of yours, according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:19

FROM DOM: We have a wonderful God!

26. HOW READER'S FIBRO BEGAN

"My fibro started about 3 months after a severe accident to my neck and face. I also had a rotten tooth that had to get pulled so the dentist said but to this day I think a root canal could have saved it. I got an infection after the extraction. Very painful. So I really am not sure which one caused fibro. It's been 41/2 years now. I have gotten much better. I get burning pain and very sore muscles so bad it hurts to touch me."

FROM DOM: Read causes of fibro at www.fms-help.com/causes.htm.

27. RESPONSE FOR HUSBAND OF FIBRO WIFE

"Please tell this gentleman www.fms-help.com/041811.htm that I was in a similar boat in my mid 20's. I had to go to bed at 6 pm to get up at 6 am, and would lay awake at night with stomach cramping. I had a job, fortunately that I didn't have to super perform, or I couldn't do it. I also am a Christian and I didn't understand why God was doing this to me. I looked around and saw people that were mean, people who smoked and drank and were healthy. I felt it was unfair, and I resented them. Now, at 50, I can see why I went through what I went through. I am able to help so many people as health professional who has learned natural methods work through my own experience. I also would contribute that God allows sometimes that negative effects of dishonest people who are destroying our food, water, bedding, air etc with chemicals which make us all sick (rain falling on the just and the unjust). I found that when I removed these, I got much better. Even just replacing my pillow with a folded blanket I can wash every week (cotton)- If I had to do anything in their situation - I would first check for mold in the home. I would second get cotton sheets and a folded blanket for a towel on the bed-preferably organic, but cotton and washable in hot water weekly( move all dry clean stuff from other rooms). Use 7th generation detergent or even just baking soda and water- regular detergents are loaded with toxic chemicals. and use natural products around the house. And start eating real foods and no processed foods. lastly I would add probiotic yogurt or kefir (along with ground flax seed for constipation). After you do all that, she should feel better- then there may be some dietary supplements that can help too. Also prayer and Bible study to see how God might be using this experience to help you to help others in the future."

FROM DOM: See my mold story www.fms-help.com/mold.htm.

"Sorrow looks back, Worry looks around, But faith looks up!"

29. EXERCISE & FMS/CFIDS

Reader 1--

"I have a suggestion for the person that wrote in about exercise www.fms-help.com/041811.htm. Yoga stretches have always been great exercise for me. The stretches loosen me up when my body is tense and destress me mentally. I don't do the meditation, etc. but I find the stretches tone and keep me in pretty good shape. You can stretch the spine which is great because not only does it keep the spine limber but because there are nerves that branch out from the spinal cord and go to all parts of our body, and to all our internal organs. There are also accupressure points related to all the internal organs and functions located along the spine. I found a book at a Health convention that I love called Acu-Yoga by Michael Reed Gach. It combines yoga and accupressure. You can target certain organs with different stretches. It also has a whole section in the back that has postures and accupressure points that benefit specific body conditions, like fatigue and insomnia. If you are looking for a way to strengthen the body without doing strenuous exercise, please try it. You can take it as easy as you want and I would recommend that you do in the beginning. Just do what you can. It combats the eventual deterioration that comes with little activity."

Reader 2--

"I find the words "suck it up" www.fms-help.com/041811.htm rather harsh for those of us who just cannot tolerate exercise. We are not being babies about it....anyone reading your newsletters knows the pain of movement and especially exercise. It might work for some, but (unless I am unusual), it HURTS...the after affect is horrible for a lot of us. And those of us with M.E. suffer even more. with M.E., it is not only for that week or two, because with M.E. it is a progression of the illness. M.E. can be fatal. In my case, my heart was stopping all the time from the M.E. I also get simple partial seizures where I actually lose my memory. I don't even know who my own mother is; sometimes I falsely believe certain members of my family have died. Once I did not know who I was. EXERCISE does this. So I cannot suck it up. Also...I TRIED elliptical....and it was the worst thing I could have tried!!! I only did it for a minute or two....and I ended up with such horrible pain that nothing would relieve it. I was in bed for several days for simply trying out this wonderful machine ..I was interested in it because of how it makes anything you do THREE times the progress. but not for US. rebounder....well, I do have one, and I can do this once in a while for a very short time; it is the only one (I think because it is a 'trampoline" of sorts and you don't touch the floor) that has NOT harmed me. HOWEVER, I did try a trampoline- I was in bed for over a week in horrible pain. so there IS a difference between the two...although I can't figure it out. When I am in the company of those who do so well, I simply keep my weakness to myself. Is it just me or are there others out there who suffer with M.E. or even fibro in such a way that exercise is the worst thing that can be attempted?"

FROM DOM: It's not just you. It's me too and probably thousands of other fibromites. When my fibro was at its worst www.fms-help.com/fibro.htm, even the mildest stretching (like reaching into a cabinet) caused weeks of excruciating pain, like my muscles were tearing apart. With CFIDS www.fms-help.com/fatigue.htm, exercise causes me flare-ups of viral illness and/or brain crashing. Just not worth it, in my opinion. However, my hat's off to any fibromites who are able to exercise. For me, walking is the best I can do.

30. VIBRATION MAY BLOCK PAIN

From a reader--

http://www.arthritistoday.org/news/vibration-help-for-pain-127.php?WT.mc_id=65vibration

31. MEAT GLUE

From a reader--

"The industry-wide secret butchers don't want you to know about: The special product called Meat Glue sticking your steak together."

http://au.todaytonight.yahoo.com/article/8989315/consumer/meat-glue

http://www.arlenemccarthy.labour.co.uk/european-ban-on-dodgy-meat-glue

32. MILLIONAIRE'S DISEASE

FROM DOM: There are so many interesting (and expensive) protocols that I have reported on in my newsletters since 1996 www.fms-help.com/newsletters.htm. We fibromites are always looking for the perfect cure - or at least a little relief from our symptoms, which are usually several (or all) from the following list: pain, depression, insomnia, muscle stiffness, viral illness, brain fog, and debilitating fatigue (exhaustion). However, a person would have to have really "deep pockets" to try many of these things, and most of us are broke - our health has ruined us financially! I have a list of helpful things I currently use at www.fms-help.com/what.htm. I discovered these little by little through trial and error since I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia in 1982 www.fms-help.com/fibro.htm and then CFIDS in 1987 www.fms-help.com/fatigue.htm. Different things help different people, but I'm happy to share my list with my readers. I am thankful for the functionality I have today (I'm able to work www.fms-help.com/students.htm), but I have to watch my health like a hawk! Any little problem has to be taken care of immediately (such as when an infection starting) or it can become a major debilitating problem for me, particularly since 2004-2005 when I worked in toxic mold www.fms-help.com/mold.htm. I also can't travel more than 30 miles without brain crashing (overstimulation). This has been the case ever since the mold exposure. However, I have quite a fulfilling and busy life in my 30 mile radius, as I also play piano and organ for my church. Fortunately, my 89 year old mother is strong and healthy and able to drive 51 miles to come see me. And my dear brother in Colorado flies out twice a year to visit my mother and me in Florida. I appreciate my family!!!

The one GREAT GOOD that has come out of my illness has been my connection with you, my dear readers, through this newsletter! I have learned so much from you, and I am glad to share the info with other sufferers. How thankful I am for the internet that keeps us connected and able to share our thoughts and information. Back in 1982 when I was first diagnosed with FMS, there was no internet, no one understood, people mocked, and the library had little or no information. I was considered a hypochondriac and a malingerer - a boss once called me "lazy!" (the opposite of my Type A, workaholic nature).

But through all the adversity, God worked on my character (and continues to work). He has made me a much more compassionate person and definitely more humble. I think sometimes a person can be too strong for God to use, because the temptation is to take credit for ones successes in life. I have learned what the apostle Paul wrote:

"And he [God] said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong." (II Corinthians 12:9. 10)

33. CURE TOOTH DECAY

http://www.curetoothdecay.com/private-lessons/lessons-brushing.htm?awt_l=CN_QR&awt_m=LMrJKIMzu2pPFS

FROM DOM: Evidently diet has more to do with decay than brushing.

34. TRAVELING WITH FIBRO & MCS

From a reader with MCS (Multiple Chemical Sensitivities)--

"I feel bad for you having only the "30 mile radius" when you travel. But, I totally understand. When I am riding I usually have to close my eyes even though I am wearing wrap around sun glasses, due to the flashing of the trees, sunlight, etc. Puts me in a tailspin. But, I can go farther than 30 miles. (I can't wear a sleep mask due to the smell of the rubber band that holds in on) I feel that would help while riding in a car. My problem with traveling isn't only the riding, but staying in motels, etc. too. We went to my granddaughter's college graduation in another state last year, and my husband found me in the middle of the night (in our motel room) sitting up in bed crying because I couldn't sleep for coughing, due to the laundry detergent/fabric softener they had used in the sheets, towels, etc. It permeates the entire suite, and makes me sick. So, I tried once (last time we had to go to Florida, in fact) calling ahead and asking them to NOT have the housecleaners use chemical cleaners in our rooms.......that I would buy peroxide when I got there and clean myself. I also told them that I would bring my own sheets. They were very willing to work with me, and I was praising God when I got there and saw how concerned they were about me and my comfort. They told me before I came they would buy the peroxide and have the girls clean our suite with it. They also asked me what I used to wash my sheets, towels, etc. I told them a "NO FRAGRANCE" (unscented doesn't work for me) detergent, with peroxide instead of any bleach, and NO FABRIC SOFTENER. So, possibly most places would work with us if we call ahead. But, there are some smells that you can't get rid of. Such as, even if they give us a "no smoking" room, ........if it had been a smoking room before, I can smell it through the sheets in the mattress, and in the drapes, furniture, etc. It is all so frustrating!!!!"

FROM DOM: My travel problems began in 2005 after working for a year in a "sick building" filled with toxic mold and bacteria www.fms-help.com/mold.htm from hurricane damage. It is now 2011, and I still can't travel by car more than about 30 miles without my brain crashing. This strange neurological problem has persisted. Although I am now pain free from fibro www.fms-help.com/what.htm, this other hindrance to travel has occurred. I do have a wonderful life in my 30 mile radius and give thanks for it, but I worry that if something happens to my loved ones who live out of town and out of state, I will be unable to get there. Well... I am learning to rest my mind on this subject (and many others I used to worry about) and just believe that God has everything under control. We are told to give thanks in everything and to rejoice always! This is certainly healthier than worrying, and I used to be a terrible Worry Wart! It goes along with my anxiety problem! However, I prefer now to ponder and believe the many reassuring scriptures about God's love and care (New Testament and the Psalms especially)! I have a small New Testament with Psalms and Proverbs in the back that I love to read in bed at night and in the morning. It is very light and easy to hold. I keep an entire Bible handy too, because all of God's Word is important, but sometimes it can feel quite heavy holding it up while lying in bed. Also, I find things in the little New Testament more easily because the page size is smaller. "O how love I thy law! it is my meditation all the day." Psalm 119:97 Thank God for His wonderful Word!

35. FMS/CFS/ME GOOD DOCTOR LIST

http://www.co-cure.org/USA_FL.htm

36. SINGER TONY TERRY TACKLES FIBROMYALGIA

http://www.myfoxhouston.com/dpp/entertainment/music/110327-tony-terry-fibromyalgia

37. GETTING THROUGH THE BAD DAYS

http://www.treatcfsfm.org/detail-80-Getting-Through-the-Bad-Days.html?PHPSESSID=e5b6ee62d6a9640e415e46bd829e7360

38. HAPPY EASTER

From a reader--

"In perfect love He made us, in perfect love He gave us the gift of free will - and in perfect love He gave His Son, Jesus Christ to redeem us. No one was worthy to save us from our sin state other than the Perfect One. I believe all this was planned for since before the moment of creation. Our Loving Heavenly Father did all possible to ensure we, whom He loved, had the perfect opportunity to be reconciled with Him.

http://justmeintchristian.blogspot.com/2011/04/jesus-light-of-world.html."

Well, that's all for now! Happy Easter! He is risen!

Dominie Bush

www.fms-help.com

dombush@bellsouth.net

100 Tips for Coping with Fibromyalgia & Insomnia

My Fibromyalgia Story

My Chronic Fatigue Story

My Insomnia Story

What I Use

II Corinthians 1: 4 - "[God] Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God." Visit Dominie's FMS/CFIDS Homepage at www.fms-help.com for Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome sufferers and their families.

SEARCH Dominie’s FMS/CFIDS site and newsletters:

Custom Search

Dominie's Favorites: Alkalizing Drops Antioxidants Cold Sore Treatment Colloidal Silver DMSO DNA Protector & Immune Booster Essential Oils (Sponsor #905788) Immune Balancing Shake Nutritional Powder Omega 3's Oxygen Drops Protein Powder Shingles Treatment Stress Tablets Supplements (highly bioavailable) Questions? Write dombush@bellsouth.net

CHRONIC COLD SORES?

DOMINIE'S FIBROMYALGIA & CHRONIC FATIGUE SYNDROME HOMEPAGE

REQUEST MY FREE NEWSLETTER

DISCLAIMER: I am not a medical doctor. I am a fibromyalgia / chronic fatigue syndrome survivor. The purpose of this website is not to diagnose or cure any disease or malady, but is presented as food for thought. This information cannot take the place of professional medical advice. Any attempt to diagnose and treat an illness should come under the direction of a physician. No guarantees are made regarding any of the information in this website.