Men with Fibromyalgia or Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

Men with Fibromyalgia (FMS),

Chronic Fatigue & Immune Dysfunction Syndrome (CFIDS)

or Myalgic Encephalomyelitis (M.E.)

I have heard from many men with FMS/CFIDS/ME since I began my site in 1996. Below are the stories of 9 men who have permitted me to share their experiences. Although 75% of reported cases are female, thousands if not millions of males around the world are also suffering. This is obviously an "equal opportunity" illness! - Dominie www.fms-help.com

1. GREG'S STORY

I am 46 years of age and live in South Africa. I am married and have two lovely normal sons aged 17 and 19.

Before I was diagnosed with this illness in 1996, my life was a nightmarish maze of dead ends with no exit sign. After being diagnosed, the maze turned into an obstacle course. Every day I learn more about overcoming these obstacles; but, I just can't find the end.

You know about those nightmares that one gets, where you cannot run fast enough and then suddenly you wake up in a sweat--only, in this situation, I long for the moment that I will wake up in a sweat, realising that Fibromyalgia and Chronic Myofascial Pain were just a bad dream.

How do you explain to someone that you hurt all over, are exhausted and at times feel as if you are dying while you look as fit as a fiddle--every day, week after week, year after year. Since the early 1980's, I spent a fortune on medical bills, covering everything from surgery and physiotherapy /(also known as Physical Therapy in the US)/, to all sorts of medication, different diets, psychologists, alternative medicines, sleep therapy, and eventually, my own research in the quest for healing and living a normal live.

I had a medical condition; but, it didn't have a name. In 1976, during one year of compulsory military training, I developed a hiatus hernia and lower back ache. However, ending up in the "sick, lame and lazy" squad was not for me. After all, those guys all had something to show for it-- like an arm in a sling, a leg in a cast, and crutches of course.

For the next eight years, I had to go through compulsory one or three-month, military camps. Although I am not against military training as such, these camps became something that I dreaded. I had no physical defects or signs to show for the unexplained pain and exhaustion that grew worse year after year. I literally learned to "duck and dive", made friends with the PT instructors, took double shifts, etc., in order to avoid the painful physical activities.

In 1982, as an electrician, I had a painful and annoying wart under my foot and a mole on my stomach right where my overhaul's zipper was, chafing against it making it bleed. The doctor said that these; and, some other moles had to be removed. This was my first time in a hospital. After surgery, waking up from anaesthetic, I discovered that my lips and mouth were full of cuts and bruises, and my front tooth was chipped.

After enquiring, one of the nurses told me that I went into some seizure or fit during surgery and ended up on the floor. I had bitten a pipe that was in my mouth to pieces and the doctor had to use some sort of surgical "crowbar" to open my mouth. At that stage of my life I didn't take things seriously and thought this was quite cool.

Due to severe sinus problems, constant sore throat and ear infections, I had a nose operation. This was done in 1987 and brought some relief, but the sore throats continued. Another problem was that of the hernia. I could no longer lie down after eating or taking fluids and had severe heartburn. This resulted in a hiatus hernia operation in 1989. It was after this operation that my health went on a downward spiral. I realised more and more that I could no longer maintain my work pace.

I was very active in my church and I used to do building alterations, welded window bars and gates, fix cars, etc. Eventually these tasks became impossible. At that stage I did shift work doing electric locomotive repairs and maintenance. There were days that I couldn't go to work and it was a great concern--I did not want to lose my job. I gradually stopped playing my trumpet, saxophone and guitars.

Eventually, I could no longer "rough and tumble" with my two sons. Low blood sugar levels and chronic fatigue became really bad and I displayed symptoms of various diseases, yet all tests came back negative.

One morning I found myself crawling on hands and knees and couldn't get up due to severe pain in my lower back. During the next two years (1991-1992), I received surgery to the lower back, which included a fusion and fitting of screws, as well as two fusions in my neck. At the end of 1992, my spine was pumped full of cortisone under x-ray.

Time passed and after some more blood tests, one doctor diagnosed me with "yuppie flu". I had the dreaded Coxsackie */(Editor Note: /**/Named after /**/Coxsackie/**/, /**/New York/**/, where they were discovered, the coxsackie viruses are part of the enterovirus family. They live in the human digestive tract. They can spread from person to person, usually on unwashed hands and surfaces contaminated by feces, where they can live for several days. In tropical parts of the world, they infect people year-round, but in cooler climates, outbreaks of coxsackie virus most often/* */occur in the summer and fall) /*and Epstein-Barr viruses.

The treatment for that was too expensive and I don't think any of it worked anyway.

In 1993, I was off work for almost the whole year. I had so much pain over my whole body, yet no x-ray or any other test could tell what was wrong with me. After a failed application for medical disability pension, I was given an ultimatum- report back for work in the first week of January 1994, or you are fired. So I reported back for work.

By then I was guilt-ridden. I did not know what to believe anymore - I did not want to live anymore. I went to my union for support; and, as a result, the company sent me for more tests. Reports included the following: from a surgeon--"This patient is a hypochondriac" (this was actually said to my face as well), Symptoms are psychosomatic and this patient is mimicking his symptoms" (orthopaedic surgeon). A psychologist reported that my condition was "all in the mind". My own report--*I think I'm crazy!***

For the last half of 1993 I had to apply for a salary and they only covered my basic household expenses (for which I was grateful nonetheless).

.and so started 1994. Back at work, my former boss took me under his wing. Our manager, however, told me that he was going to get rid of me. At that stage, not being able to work with tools anymore, I developed some skills on the computer. This became my "job security" so to speak, and the manager and I soon became good friends.

For the next two years I managed to hide my problems well, but eventually it was as if new symptoms kept surfacing. My stomach was constantly burning and I thought I better have it looked at. I saw a specialist and basically told him my whole story. He asked me to document everything that I had told him and to come back again. I swallowed the camera and was told that I had a stomach rash.

He then booked me for a colonoscopy. For those who don't know what that is, instead of swallowing the camera, it goes up the other end (no, not the nose). During the next visit, the doctor tried to insert the camera, but it didn't go that far. While still under mild anaesthetic, my muscles would contract and he couldn't continue the examination. He told me that he had an idea of what was wrong with me and since he was not certain, he did not tell me, but referred me to a professor who was a specialist in that area.

I was excited. Somebody may actually know what was wrong with me. Back at the office I called to make an appointment. The receptionist told me that the professor could only see me in about ten month's time. He was also a lecturer and had a very busy schedule. I told the receptionist not to bother. That left me despondent and I felt so hopeless and useless. It was the middle of 1996.

A few weeks later I received a call. It was the professor himself! The doctor who tried the colonoscopy on me had forwarded the document that I had compiled for him, to the professor. Two weeks later, with a box full of x-rays and medical reports, my wife and I sat in his waiting room. That was the longest and most intense interview and examination I ever had. Then he got physical! He pressed on some areas on my neck, back, arms and legs--the so called tender points. I never realised that there was such pain hidden in my body. Later he injected some solution right into those points. I thought that I knew what pain was; wait until you get these injections. My "all in the mind" condition had a name- Fibromyalgia and Chronic Myofascial Pain.

The professor had attended an overseas congress on Fibromyalgia the week before and showed me some paragraphs in a book that he brought back. It seemed as if I copied some paragraphs straight from that book into my report. (This was the report that was forwarded to him by the previous doctor). I also learned that there are millions of other people with the same illness, but that the medical profession was still a few steps behind. Later that day I sat crying with relief--it has a name.

This was a turning point in my life and the future looked a bit brighter. There is limited treatment and unfortunately the treatment works only for a small number of people with this condition. I am not one of these fortunate ones. Fibromyalgia is not specific and does not target a certain group of people. It affects the rich, the poor, the fat ones, lean ones and skinny ones--saint and sinner alike.

I have tried so many remedies, machines that heal--with a strap around the toe and one around the head (and vibrating water), pills that caused me to wake up with a face on top of mine and a pig snout where my mouth used to be. Funny, but it's true. In fact, some of these machines and remedies made my symptoms worse. I now avoid these things.

I basically live my day in preparation for the next. If I know I'm going to travel far, I have to go to bed much earlier and up the dosage of medication that I use for sleep. I no longer use any form of medication except for Trepiline */(Editor Note: This is a /**/tricyclic antidepressant used in the treatment of patients with endogenous depression. It also possesses mild tranquilizing and sedative properties which is helpful in alleviating anxiety or agitation that often accompanies depression. It is not commonly used in the /**/US/**/, but is more common in /**/South Africa/**/ and other parts of the world)./*

This helps me sleep, but it is not always effective. These tablets cause my mouth to dry and my voice sounds like that of a frog begging for rain. Among other side effects, it also increases my fatigue. One of the most aggravating symptoms that I get from not resting well is tinnitus
(ringing in the ears) and restless leg syndrome. Sometimes it gets so bad that it drives me crazy.

After 2 to 3 days without sleep, I get nauseous and drunk in the head (similar to being car-sick), and my eyes won't focus. My skin gets tender (like neuralgia) and irritated, and the body pain becomes unbearable. I cannot use crutches or a walking stick, because of the pain in my wrists and arms.

Something that I have learnt over the years is to keep my mouth shut when in the company of strangers and busybodies. It is amazing how many people (half-dead themselves), all of a sudden become experts when they learn of my condition. "You must drink this", "do that", eat this", etc. "My doctor is the best", "trust in the Lord for healing", "let me pray for you"--and when they do and nothing happens, they blame me for a lack of faith. "Stretch out your arms, breathe deep, and go ummm for as long as you can exhale" .ummm? It freaks me out when people get like this and the thought of sitting under a cactus in the desert, counting rattlers slithering by, becomes appealing.

I created a leaflet explaining my condition and would hand it to a person if I knew we would be working together, or if there would be some sort of a long-term relationship.

After my diagnosis, I also embarked on some research of my own, but it was only in 2000 when I got private access to the Internet that I discovered the vast amount of information available. I ordered and read the survival manual by Devin Starlanyl */(Editor Note: She's a healer who has some "interesting" ideas about FMS/CFS and related conditions. Her website is located at: http://www.sover.net/~devstar/) /*searched the Internet and studied many articles on Fibromyalgia, different diets, nutrition, exercise, homeopathy and alternative medicines, etc.

Unfortunately there is no cure for this condition yet and I had endured a horde of operations and treatments that had made my condition worse. On top of that, I also developed an incisional hernia, from my breast-bone, down to my navel and it cannot be repaired successfully.

I was wondering....since conditions of "all in the mind" became so pandemic, shouldn't all these "professional doctors" then classify the "all in the mind" as a disease or something. It seems that the easiest way out is to dismiss the patient with "it's all in the mind", and the stigma that goes with it is devastating to the poor patient who is only trying to find some sort of relief. A true medical professional will not belittle his/her patient in such a way, but will attempt to treat the something that they can only call "all in the mind".

I have lost faith in most areas of the medical profession. What I went through before being diagnosed cost me a fortune, financially an emotionally, and it became clear that some doctors who saw me coming--saw a way of making a quick buck. I have the greatest respect for the doctor who referred me to the professor and for the professor, who diagnosed me. Wish there were more like them.

Over the years I have lost many friends because they did not understand or accept my condition. I have also become more solitary, severing ties with those who make me feel uncomfortable and unwelcome. My struggle goes on, trying to survive as a man in the work environment, as a husband and father, and in society.

Being a male with this disease is not easy. Imagine not being able to walk fast, run, or jump up and down--not being able to travel a lot, or for far distances. Sometimes when I kneel down or squat, I need help to get up again. Can you imagine what it feels like walking down the street, looking fit and healthy outwardly, with my wife carrying all the parcels?

These are but a few simple examples of the struggles of a male with this disease. Sitting down while a lady has to stand, standing while everyone else is sitting down--how embarrassing. What people don't realise is that with the physical pain and the awkwardness of this condition, comes a lot of emotional pain, self-denial, insecurity, feelings of guilt...and then there were the moments when I wanted to end it all, how glad I am that I never did such a thing, because there is always something worth living for--even if it is simply saying a prayer for someone else. There are also my wife and sons, who lovingly put up with me everyday.

During all of this, I was also a Minister and the Principal of a Bible Institute (since 1991), but I stepped down from these positions in 2003, since I could no longer cope. My greatest comfort comes from the Lord, knowing that my pain cannot compare to the pain of His cross and that He has a plan and purpose for all of us.

To my Fibro-friends, maintain a good diet and exercise routine, take one day at a time, never give up, because you are stronger than you realise, and it has a name. Fibromyalgia!

2. GERALD'S STORY

I was diagnosed in 1987 with FMS/CFS. As I can recall, I started having symptoms after a car accident when I was in junior high. The pain, fatigue and cognitive problems started to take severe effect in my years of high school. I thought I was mentally slow. No matter what I was doing, mentially, physically, and emotionally was never easy for me--I felt stupid. I had to really work hard to remember things. I was even harder on myself than my peers were. I had to resign my position as a Medical Lab Assistant Tech. of 14+ years. It was getting harder in keeping up my yearly CEU's and qualifications. Today I am a Licensed & Ordained Christian Minister. I perform weddings. This is about the only thing I can do that doesn't require me to stand for too long or give a lengthy sermon. So I am blessed with a wonderful family who support me on all levels. My wife especially, she my soulmate. We have been married for 23 years.

3. ERIC'S STORY

I am a 59 year old man living in the United Kingdom. I have had, I believe, Fibromyalgia for many years. Reading your website www.fms-help.com/fibro.htm, I can totally relate to everything you have experienced. My quality of life has been taken away from me for over 25 years, and no one I have ever seen in the medical profession has the least insight into this "syndrome" which is extremely frustrating.

4. BOB'S STORY

I�ve battled with several �syndromes� and other tough to cure illnesses over the past 15 years. Many of the syndromes were a) hard to diagnose and b) even harder to treat. I�ve gone through years of suffering with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS), Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS), A distended bladder combined with insomnia, headaches, Leaky Gut Syndrome, tonsillitis, depression, etc.

I could write a full book on all the doctors that I�ve visited and all the prescriptions that I�ve taken, but I want to keep this as short as possible. I remember reading the title of a book, �Sick and Tired of Feeling Sick and Tired� that would describe exactly how I felt a few years into what I now know to be CFS, IBS and a distended bladder. I remember reading about people who had suffered with CFS and who were now feeling better and thinking � there is no way that I am going to get over this. I am not going to feel better. I may as well kill myself now. I cried myself to bed many a night wondering �why me?� Thankfully I had the love of a strong family and just that thought alone prevented me from taking thoughts of offing myself any further than just thinking about it.

OK � the short of it is that I got sick a lot growing up. Seemed like I had Strep throat or bronchitis once a month. Unfortunately I also had a doctor who loved antibiotics. You may even need antis for certain ailments like Strep (unless you have a strong background in Natural Healing) but I have faint recollection of going for a check up and walking out with a shot of penicillin! Shots, pills, that great tasting pink antibiotic � I was always on one or the other. It is only now that I can hypothesize that that was a major contributor to my later suffering.

It was November 1987 when I first developed the symptoms that combined to form my CFS. I came down with the �flu� the first week of November � exactly one week before my family and I were heading to Florida for a week of fun in the sun. I was actually happy to be sick because I knew that I�d take some anti-biotic and that I�d be great to go to Florida. Unfortunately that didn�t work out so well. I got the anti-biotic but the �flu� was still there one week later. It was still there 2 months later. It was still there 2 years later. Remnants of it were still around 15 years later.

I won�t mention every doctor that I went to looking for a diagnosis. I also will leave out the tedious details of the trek as much as possible. For what it�s worth � I wound up at an internist a bit past Christmas � no fever, all blood work normal. Put me on Pamelor because it had to be depression � after all I was negative for EBV and Lyme.

I felt like I had the flu every single day for the next 2 years. Weakness permeated everything. It wasn�t tiredness, where one needed to sleep, it was �sapped� weakness, the kind you get with the flu. Missed lots of school and had to get a tutor. I then developed burning urination. Severe burning and an aching in my bladder area. My urine was clear but I wound up on Cipro �Just in case�. The first of many that my urologist prescribed. Antis and sulfas. Over and over again � adding to my systems already torn down condition. At age 18 I had had my prostate examined more times that I should have had to endure in a lifetime! And the only thing that brought relief was a numbing med, Pyridium Plus, that dyed your urine red.

I continued seeking all kinds of doctors to try and track down why I felt weak all the time. Internists, allergists (did test positive for several allergies and started on allergy shots and medications), endocrinologists. Everything came back fine. Even saw a counselor and went through Prozac, amitryptiline, etc etc etc. I knew it wasn�t depression causing me to feel like crap. It was feeling like crap making me depressed! But the docs just didn�t get it � all those different anti-depressants not doing squat logically meant that depression wasn�t my issue, but sometimes logic and medical just don�t mix. As a matter of fact the only thing that ever came back �out of range� was my temperature. I was always running low, 97.5 or so, but that never concerned anyone.

I headed to Johns Hopkins to see the best of the best. I waited 2 months for the appointment and then 8 hours in the office. My dad took off from work and drove me down. We met with a doc for about 45 minutes who thought that I may have had meningitis back in November and that I was probably suffering from a post viral syndrome that would correct itself by the prom in May. It didn�t.

So � still trotting along with no diagnosis, feeling like crap, and with no answers whatsoever, my urologist performed a prostate biopsy and it came up clear. I don�t need to emphasize that an 18 year old getting a needle anywhere near the prostate is not all that pleasant. He did find a varicose vein �in that area� that he wanted to remove. I went under the knife and had the varicocele taken out. The burning did not subside. After we came up empty with this expedition I had no clue where to turn next.

A few months went by. Basically spending all day in my home, every minute of which I felt weak. Every minute � not one day passed that I didn�t feel crappy. Weakness and frequent burning urination. What a pair!

It was a few months after the prostate biopsy that someone recommended a urologist a few towns over. We set up an appointment and my father and I headed over. He did a basic urological exam and tested urine. He then said, �It�s not your prostate. You have a distended bladder.� He prescribed the high blood pressure medication Hytrin to relax the bladder. I picked it up that night and started it the next day.

My burning urination started to fade. I couldn�t believe that this doctor was able to find in 2 minutes what my first doctor was unable to find in 2 years and with several thousand dollars worth of tests as well as a surgery �under my belt�. My burning was completely gone within 2 weeks. This was my first miracle.

I was now into my second year of weakness. I tried to call on the knowledge that the burning was cured after a long hard road � so possibly could everything else. But it was tough. Depression was also growing. Sick and tired, sick and tired��.

I wound up at an Ear, Nose and Throat specialist. Surprise surprise, I had a deviated septum that was causing sinus infections. Surgery. The most painful surgery I have ever undergone to date (and I�ve had a hernia as well as a second and third sinus surgery). The septum was rebroken and reset. Within three months it had begun to pull back �out of place�. The surgery didn�t take. I later found out that this locally famous doctor had been suspended for crack use. What a joke.

Found myself at a second ENT. Guess what? I had chronic tonsillitis and they had to come out. I was hoping that this chronic infection was the cause of all my suffering � the Merck Manual�s list of symptoms absolutely mirrored my own. I had the tonsils out (something I now regret but who knew) and after 3 weeks of pain � no relief. Well, that�s not completely true. I started to get far less sore throats and I did have a day or two in a few months where my weakness subsided. I actually knew what it felt like to feel good again. The only problem was that the day or two that I started to feel better actually served as a horrible �tease� as I would slip back into weakness. I would have a day or two of relief and then weeks of relapse.

My ENT saw me a few times for subsequent sinus infections. He wanted to go in there now and clear out my passages as well as take a shot at the septum. Sure! Why not?

He did the surgery and on my one week follow up he said that scar tissue was forming. He shoved a needle into my nose and numbed it up. He then stitched plastic into both my nostrils to keep the scar tissue from being able to join together. I later found out that most surgeons do this while you are in surgery! 2 days after this rather pleasant experience I cut the stitches out myself and removed the plastic. It was driving me nuts. I never went back to him.

The Hytrin was still doing its thing but as with all meds I did develop side effects. My mouth was constantly dry. I had odd nightmares. (Later research through the Life Extension Foundation (www.LEF.org) revealed that it could affect melatonin and other brain chemicals so I started taking it at night instead of in the A.M. as it is normally directed. This helped with the nightmares.) I also had this enjoyable urge to faint when I got up quickly. Once I even fell through a glass coffee table after getting up from reading the comics�Joy Joy.

I went to see a local internist. I was now approaching 3 years of sickness. . He diagnosed me with CFS. Finally. I felt a little better just hearing that. I had a name for this demon. I also underwent a scope because I had now been experiencing severe stomach pains and bouts of diarrhea over the last year. He diagnosed my IBS. A second prescription med, Bentyl, was added. It also worked well. My stomach pains subsided. However the thought of being 20 years old and taking two prescription meds with their side effects (I was chewing Advil to fight off almost daily headaches) didn�t sit well. And I still was weak 90% of my days. I knew that I had to do something myself. But I also was lucky to have this guy as my doctor. He put names on 2 things that no one else could. Plus he recommended that after I used the Bentyl for a few weeks to get through the current acute stage that I try taking Metamucil at night. People mistakenly think that Metamucil is a laxative. It is not. It is a bulking agent. Fiber. It binds water together with the fiber which means paradoxically it can help with constipation AND diarrhea.

I used Bentyl for two weeks and then switched to Metamucil. It worked. My IBS was lessened tremendously, probably around 80%. Most importantly the pain was really lessened and inadvertently my doctor had turned me on to Natural Healing. If a simple product containing psyllium could almost cure something as well as a drug could � what else was out there?

I won�t go through every single thing that I researched or every single product or technique that I tried. I probably couldn�t remember them anyway � even with the Ginkgo that I take�but I will touch on some of them.

I did a lot of research on CFS. Theories of the cause of this syndrome changed a lot. Blood pressure abnormality (I had a tilt table test and tried the drug Florinef. I increased my water and salt intake too, but it didn�t help), viruses, brain stem issues. Nothing I tried helped very much. I had read Durk Pearson and Sandy Shaw�s book �Life Extensions� a few years back and that drew me to nutrition. I read and reread that book. I wore the cover off and had to track down a second copy at a used bookstore. I tried Hydergine, but it did not help. But because of that book I found myself searching for the Life Extension Foundation on the Internet. I joined their buyers club and started to get their excellent magazine. Here is what I have done directly because of Durk and Sandy...[Read the rest of the story at http://mywebpages.comcast.net/gnxfan/bio.html]

5. RAY'S STORY

My name is Ray. I'm 29 years old. In 1998 I started developing strange symptoms in my body. It began with severe pain in my neck and shoulders, pain and stiffness in my arms, hands, fingers, legs and feet, severe headaches, not being able to sleep at night and just total exhaustion. All this started after years of extreme stress, including working as a aircraft mechanic with the Air Force and being sent to Turkey in 1995 (Operation Northern Watch), then returning to a sudden divorce and becoming an instant single parent of two children (ages 1 and 3).

After a long period of time fighting to get out of the Air Force to care for my children, I finally got a hardship discharge and moved to Florida in 1997, where the stress continued to grow as I tried to raise two young children by myself and work several jobs to support us. Then in 1998 I got remarried, which was a great thing. However, at the same time I had to take over the care of my 80-year-old grandmother, who was beginning to have dementia and also had many physical problems. We moved her into a house with us and began caring for her 24 hours a day. I also became her power of attorney and had to take charge of and maintain a very large trust account for her. All this was just overwhelming, especially with her having dementia and a lot of hate and anger stored up inside of her from her past, which all came out towards me for some reason. This marked the beginning of my major health problems. I guess you could say that after all I'd been through, this was the straw that broke the camel's back.

In 1998 when my bizarre symptoms started, I began the journey to find an answer and ended up going to many different doctors who did every kind of test there was including MRIs, x-rays, nerve conduction tests, many different blood tests, psychological tests, and may other tests. But the doctors' conclusion was that I was a healthy person and had nothing wrong with me, that this was just all in my head. The pain started getting worse and I knew this could not be in my head, and then finally a rheumatologist diagnosed me with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome. So I finally had a name for the problem--all I had to do now was treat it. But this turned out to be a bigger problem than I thought!

I tried many things with no results, including drugs like clonazepam, celebrex, norflex, pamelor, and flexeril, as well as physical therapy, chiropractors, massage therapy, acupuncture, and many kinds of herbs and natural products--all with little to no results and the pain just kept getting worse. There were days that I could barely move to get out of bed, and I was just sleeping a few hours every night and it was a very light sleep at that. I was a photographer but could no longer do that because I could not lift things any more, like the equipment and the children. My hands were getting so bad that I could not hold things anymore for a long period of time--like holding a camera. Even regular things, like holding a phone to my ear, holding a fork to eat, or holding a pen to write were very painful and sometimes impossible. It also became harder to remember things and to concentrate clearly and to just function in a normal daily routine....

[Long story short, Ray took a turn for the better in 2001, thanks to a recommendation from his dentist/friend.]

March 2002 - Spoke to Ray and he is going back to work full time next week. He took his kids to a theme park last weekend and they rode 5 upside down roller coasters! Ray is doing fine in every way.

Spring 2004: Ray is a busy young father who is working full time and going to school full time to be a paramedic.

6. JOSEPH'S STORY

In 1976, I had a dental crown for one tooth, two wisdom teeth filled and a partial denture plate replaced with a permanent bridge affixed by way of caps on both eyeteeth. This was a procedure that lasted for several hours. Yes, it was all done in one session.

As far as I have been able to remember, this was the beginning of my FMS path. I was subsequently treated for several disorder/symptoms�ulcers, spastic colon, irritable bowel syndrome, arthritis, gout, depression, hypertension, allergies, sinusitis, tinitis and more that I do not recall. (Perhaps that is the �brain fog� of FMS or just the result of all those ineffective meds doctors had previously prescribed.)

I had just been through two six-week sessions of physical therapy to no avail. The cat scan showed my rheumatoid specialist that I had arthritis in my thumbs�about the only place that did not hurt! I told him what my personal opinion was and never set foot in that office again. Approaching despair, I looked forward to the day I would be eligible for early retirement. At least I would no longer have that stress added to not knowing why I hurt all the time in most places.

My general practitioner doctor had been of no help and I had little faith in neither chiropractic treatment nor osteopathy. An osteopathic doctor friend suggested trying chiropractic. He admitted he had taken only what was required in his schooling and never used manipulation in his practice. (A frank doctor? Yes, there is at least one, though he no longer has a private practice. He could not tolerate the insurance companies control on what he felt was needed for his patients.)

A physical therapy assistant had advised me that she had known several patients who had found some relief of pain by using acupressure. She recommended a tennis ball in a sock. The sock was to allow one to get the tennis ball between you and a solid surface. Find the sorest spot and lean on it for ten seconds or so. She said there were a number of spots that frequently sore and acupressure on these often brought relief, if only temporary.

So, seven years + ago, I began a search via the internet for a name or names to put to my aches and pains. In searching for information about pressure points and hopefully a diagram to guide me, I ran across articles, postings, etc. discussing FMS. WOW, could this be it?

My doctor, bless his soul, knew next to nothing about FMS but said I could not have that. Only women had it and it was usually not the real answer. Something else was the cause. So, with little left to loose I followed the advice of one of the articles I had read. I went to a chiropractor. After a couple of weeks I did feel better for a couple of days following each adjustment. Then I brought up FMS with him. He sidestepped the issue for a while but I kept bringing him printouts about FMS and chiropractic treatment. He finally said that, if he had to put a name to my problems, it would be fibromyalgia syndrome. He did not want to be accused of practicing medicine without a license by making a medical diagnosis.

So back to my GP, I went with my printouts.. He said, ultimately, that I might have FMS since none of the other tests showed anything else. About a year later, it became a definite diagnosis. So, drugs of various types were tried over the next two years or so until I reached the magic date whereby I could take full retirement. I jumped at it and soon moved to Mexico where it was warm almost year round. I continued my internet searching and ultimately decided that I would try another pill. Generic cyclobenzaprin was available and my search had lead me to believe this to be the least addictive/least detrimental/least side effect potential of all the pills on the market.

Cyclobenzaprin is known generally by the trade name of Flexoril. It is used as a muscle relaxant for most people. For FMS sufferers, it seems to help that but also acts as a seratonin re-uptake inhibitor. In other words, as I understand it, the natural seratonin created by the body is reabsorbed too rapidly to be of full use to the FMS sufferer. So, REM sleep is difficult to maintain, if achieved. Well, I did sleep better. I only woke about three times per night instead of ten or more times. Returning to sleep was also easier.

I hate taking PILLS. I just have never trusted the chemical/pharmaceutical industry. So, I have returned to the internet in an attempt to find an alternative. I found much more information available on the web and a few newer options that were natural or semi-natural origin. OPC was one of the buzzwords. Immune Balancing Formulas, Glyconutrient products, super antioxidants, and on. So much of it was not available to me because the companies would not ship to Mexico. But in truth, it all sounded like the spiel of the fabled snake oil salesman.

So, I try a modest exercise program, walk two miles or more per day, and at bedtime take acetaminophen (Ibuprophan makes the ringing in my ears worse and will keep me awake) and cyclobenzaprin, both in as modest amounts as I have found I can get along with. What to try next?

A new but dear friend tells of the life she had until eight years ago. She was processing a disability claim from her wheel chair. Her house was being retrofitted for the handicapped with ramps, rails, and a new bath. She thought she would have to live the rest of her FMS life from a wheel chair. Then she was guided into trying one of the natural supplement regimens. For her it worked. She continues with the maintenance level of the supplements and now leads a full and active life without any of the FMS symptoms. Hmmm, maybe this is not the snake oil salesman�s patter. I am still searching the web for info and results achieved by others. Maybe I�ll try this one. No decision on this yet.

7. KEN'S STORY

I'm a 44 yr old firefighter who felt run down most of last year and was sleeping better than I ever had in my life but all I wanted to do was sleep. In February of this year, I had something like the flu in which I ached and had swollen throat and bad headache and neckache and went to my family doc who said I had all signs of viral meningitis but didn't confirm with a lumbar puncture and he said since it was viral, it should go away in 3 days and did but left me with vertigo that continued to worsen to the point where I couldn't do anything.

I went to a local ENT who put ear tubes in both ears and I immediately developed a chronic ear infection in both ears and went almost 2 weeks for daily suctioning of my ears that were never cultured to find out exactly what the germ was. I went to a world renowned ear clinic in Memphis, and was told the infection had spread to the mastoid bones in both sides and was givien a quinolone drug called Levaquin that I had a really bad reaction to. I was put in the hospital for the mastoiditis and given IV drugs and sent home and continued to worsen.

I had unbelievable anxiety and was almost completely out of it night and day for 3 months, and had neurological problems including tremors and weakness and fatigue and also lost almost 40 lbs. but I was never in any physical pain. I also had memory and brain process problems.

I was also given close to 5 weeks of IV rocephin for the mastoiditis and had a mastoidectomy and typanoplasty on side of head and ear and have lost hearing on that side.

About 4 weeks ago, my brain function and sleep began to get better, but I've developed extreme fatigue and aches and pains all over my body as if a bad case of flu multiplied 10x. I try to exercise but it's as if my muscles won't build up especially upper body arms.

I haven't been diagnosed with CFS or fibro but have an appt. to see my neurologist, who doesn't know what is wrong with me, Oct 6 to see and ask him if he thinks it could be either since I didn't have pain when I last saw him. I haven't been able to work since the end of April and want nothing more than to go back to work doing the job I love most, firefighting and your website has given me hope that I can get better.

I also forgot to mention that during the first 3 months when I was so bad, I didn't sleep night or day even with a multitude of sleeping pills, all of which had the opposite effect of what they were suppose to. Before this illness, a Benedryl would put me out 10 hrs or more and now wires me. It's as if my whole metabolism has changed and doesn't work correctly. I am sleeping better but the fatigue and pain are almost unbearable at times.

8. ED'S STORY

A fever would change my life forever and how could one imagine that a fever could do that? Over the course of a mid-June weekend I noticed myself getting sick. By Monday morning, I woke �up feeling like my head was going to explode; I could hardly swallow; my throat felt like sand paper; and I was dizzy and disoriented. I asked my mother to check my temperature and it came up a tad below 106 degrees. She brought me immediately to the doctor. I was diagnosed with mononucleosis. I spent that summer in bed and in a personal painful wasteland of brutal fatigue, muscle pain, sore throats, swollen glands, sleep disorders, memory problems, brain fog, word usage problems, and a feeling that I had lost my brain. As the fall semester would approach for college, for this 25 year old male, I would painfully come to realize that I was not the same Ed that I was before I left school in May, and that something was very different about my body and my brain. I would struggle for the next five years to finish both undergraduate and graduate studies, and go from doctor to doctor searching for a cure and help. By the time my studies where all over, I was left completely physically empty and there was nothing left to work in the field that I had studied and worked so hard to get into to. In March of 1996, I finally meet a great doctor who finally diagnosed me with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS). At this point I was so sick that work was out of the question and disability looked like the only option for me. Severe and overwhelming physical and muscle pain was now becoming bad, where as it was not before, and I was soon to be diagnosed with Fibromyalgia (FM). My doctor had said that many people with CFS develop FM too.

After five years of depression and emotional pain with coping with my own demons and battles with CFS, FM, The Social Security Administration, and The Housing and Urban Development Agency, I finally found peace, serenity, happiness, love, faith, and a higher power. Also, my disability monies came and I got my own subsided federal apartment. So, by 2001 I felt like my life was feeling normal again. I was still symptomatic but I had changed despite the CFS and FM had not changed at all. I went back to church and to spiritual retreats and through that I was able to match the calamity of my own CFS and FM with serenity. A higher power made this possible for me. The first time in years depression began to elude me and felt happy and serene because I was tired of being negative and depressed and it also began to bring my body and mind down. I wanted to find a better way to cope and live. I met a beautiful woman and we fell in love about two years ago and she has made me a better man and a better person. I had been alone for twelve years and I had lost all hope that I would ever meet anyone again. But, through faith and patience my higher power put her in my path and I was able to ask her out and hence began our process of being together.

This beautiful and lovely woman encouraged me to continue writing my book, Fibro-man (with CFS). I began to give-up on it because I figured that no one wanted to read a book from the male perspective or the male point-of-view. But, I continued to press and type on and the book was completed in September of 2004. The book has received wonderful reviews from both male and female along with CFS and FM magazines. If would like to read more about my book you can visit my website at http://fibromancfs.tripod.com.

9. SCOTT'S STORY

Sometime during my mid teen years I began to have great difficulty sleeping. It would take me 1-2 hours or more to fall asleep. Waking up in the morning I felt as if I had not slept at all. I hated mornings. However, I was still able to function normally albeit I was ready to take a nap at any given moment. I finished high school a half-year early because I had already fulfilled the required number of credits for graduation. I enrolled in college and began my first semester in the spring of 1981. At this time I also took a job with a landscaping company to help pay for my college tuition. It was very hard manual labor. I would often go home too exhausted to eat and would simply plop down in bed, dirty clothes and all, and fall asleep. Mornings brought no relief from the fatigue yet I kept pressing on. Getting through college was extremely hard. Not because the academics were more difficult than they were for anyone else. It was the simple fact that I had great difficulty staying awake during class and while studying. I thought what I was experiencing was normal. I was to find out in later years that it was not.

With the Lord's help and the strength that youth brings I was able to graduate from college. However, the fatigue would continue to plague me as I entered the workforce. I found I had the same problem at a corporate desk that I did at a classroom desk. I was becoming deeply depressed and it was at this point in my life that I began to entertain suicidal thoughts.

Please continue reading Scott's story at www.skblades.net/fibro/fibro.html. Scott's experience with insomnia is similar to mine - beginning in the mid-teen years. See www.fms-help.com/insomnia.htm. I once heard from a man in his 70's who had not slept since he was 18 in boot camp! He said, "If you think boot camp is rough, try it without sleep!" He went on to have a life filled with bad health, physical suffering, surgeries, etc. Years later, he called to report that he had finally slept after he began taking an immune balancing powder. I have often wondered if the vaccinations he was given in boot camp damaged his immune function and the part of the brain that controls sleep. Or perhaps the stress of boot camp itself changed his brain function or chemicals. I hear from many more teens now who are developing insomnia, FMS and CFIDS. Wonder what's going on? Could it be a virus, a mycoplasma infection, or too much modern day stress? More comments about kids and teens with FMS/CFIDS is at www.fms-help.com/teens.htm. After much stress in my life, my health collapsed in June of 1982 (literally overnight) when I was 30. I was diagnosed shortly thereafter with fibromyalgia (then called "fibrositis"). My story is at www.fms-help.com/fibro.htm. Fibromyalgia is an epidemic now - hindering and hurting people at every stage of life - all over the world! Still, doctors can't seem to help us much. Many don't "believe" in fibromyalgia, and the ones who do don't understand it unless they have it themselves (assuming they can still practice while battling this disabling condition!) See my 100 Tips for Coping with Fibromyalgia and Insomnia at www.fms-help.com/tips.htm for some things I've learned as a fellow sufferer.

Here is another site for Men with Fibromyalgia

DISCLAIMER: I am not a medical doctor. I am a fibromyalgia/chronic fatigue syndrome survivor. The purpose of this website is not to diagnose or cure any disease or malady, but is presented as food for thought. This information cannot take the place of professional medical advice. Any attempt to diagnose and treat an illness should come under the direction of a physician. No guarantees are made regarding any of the information in this website.

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